Self-motivated - switch on and off

Self-motivated is unlike the light bulb which we can simply switch on and off any times. When we always staying motivated it can acts as an automatic interpreter for our positive mental attitude.

The power to choose will determines that failures only penetrate into our defense system when we enable it. If we disabled it, there is no way for failures could pull us down. Think about this power as a firewall in our brain. When failures being interpreted as "deferred successes", we will start again and back on track. Think about this power also as a circuit breaker to put negative elements into halt. To upgrade this ability, here are few things we can do on daily basis:

1) Mix around with positive people.
2) Read self-improvement books, articles, journals, and publications.
3) Stay away from losers. You still can be friend, but keep upgrading your defense systems.
4) Never will you come back to those losers if you realized they bringing much weapon of mass destruction into your positive energy.
5) Be determined - "For I'm a winner, that you think I'm a loser, for I'm positive, that you think I'm negative". Say it with determination - "goodbye losers."
6) Listen to motivational songs and tapes.

Every morning, see yourself in the mirror and say it out loud "today going to be a great day!" Please don't leave home without it.

Fail 9999 times

Many optimists believed that there is no such thing as failure in their dictionary. To them all failures just considered as only outcomes. They rise and bounce back from every defeat and become wiser, stronger and more experienced.

The famous story of Thomas Edison who 'tried' almost 10,000 times before he was able to come out with his patented new technology invention - the gramophone. However, there is no exact proof that he was really 'failed' almost 10,000 times. To many of us, that amount of trials doesn't make him famous, but his spirit to keep trying until successful is utmost important.

When asked about his new invention, he replied; 'I didn't fail 9999 times. I found and discovered 9999 ways it wouldn't work.'

Now, if anyone of us discovered few times that things wouldn't work, do we have the same level of persistency? Nowadays, we can see many people easily give up on their dreams. Realistically, we should not compare our level of success with others, but should compare them with our previous successes. For if we start comparing our successes with others, there are people who always less or more successful than us. Our own successes always a fair yardstick to measure ourselves as we progress. Above all, never never give up but start again more prepared and intelligently.

Role model

We need to look for role model for reflection, but the question is, who can be the one?

Role models of the world play a crucial part in our lives as we can be inspired by their life tenets, principles, sacrifices, success stories, leadership, and qualities.

We can emulate their success principles, but there is no guarantee that we are not going to experiencing tough challenges. We can choose any particular role model and try to study their life stories. One thing for sure, they must at least be able to tell us about their ups and downs to their way to success. This witness either can be obtained from documented sources like books, journals or directly from the person(if they still healthy and alive).

Despite of trying to emulate those already successful before us, the most important is to live our true self. Living our own destiny is our true legacy, but adding on the values that we learned from them considered as bonus.

Dig and explore even deeper within yourself, and you will find your most wonderful quality. That is the most wonderful part of you - human potential and spirit. That potential and spirit must be transformed into positive mental attitude and determination to win. Use them as tools to beat and overcome testing and tough challenges. That's to me is truly precious and inspirational.

The law of the opposite

Almost everything in this world exist in contra. This is what we called the law of the opposite.

If we were to list down any contra situation related to this law, we will be having a very long list. The most common one is about wealth - rich and poor. In almost any set of contra that we list down, majority of us would aspire to achieve good side of the law such as rich, handsome, pretty, fair, happy, positive, kind, and the list will goes on and on...

Indirectly, the law will make it more interesting to live this life. It boil down to how we are transforming what we perceived as setbacks into our strength and success story when we fall into any set of contra(e.g. failure vs success). This unique law making the world an interesting place as human being always having mutual reliance with each other to transform from one extreme(poor) to the other extreme(rich).

Note that some contra(e.g ugly face) less likely to be tranformed physically. Yet, it still possible to be transformed internally by being kind, smart, polite, and knowledgeable(just to name a few). One maybe less likely become a model with ugly face, but by possessing those mentioned qualities still can make the person successful in life.

In our prowess to achieve or strike a balance, please remember that we always having options. For example, if we have failed in something, there is always another option on the other extreme which is success.

The law of the opposite make life not as life with dead end but as life with choices and options...