Self-motivated - switch on and off

Self-motivated is unlike the light bulb which we can simply switch on and off any times. When we always staying motivated it can acts as an automatic interpreter for our positive mental attitude.

The power to choose will determines that failures only penetrate into our defense system when we enable it. If we disabled it, there is no way for failures could pull us down. Think about this power as a firewall in our brain. When failures being interpreted as "deferred successes", we will start again and back on track. Think about this power also as a circuit breaker to put negative elements into halt. To upgrade this ability, here are few things we can do on daily basis:

1) Mix around with positive people.
2) Read self-improvement books, articles, journals, and publications.
3) Stay away from losers. You still can be friend, but keep upgrading your defense systems.
4) Never will you come back to those losers if you realized they bringing much weapon of mass destruction into your positive energy.
5) Be determined - "For I'm a winner, that you think I'm a loser, for I'm positive, that you think I'm negative". Say it with determination - "goodbye losers."
6) Listen to motivational songs and tapes.

Every morning, see yourself in the mirror and say it out loud "today going to be a great day!" Please don't leave home without it.

Role model

We need to look for role model for reflection, but the question is, who can be the one?

Role models of the world play a crucial part in our lives as we can be inspired by their life tenets, principles, sacrifices, success stories, leadership, and qualities.

We can emulate their success principles, but there is no guarantee that we are not going to experiencing tough challenges. We can choose any particular role model and try to study their life stories. One thing for sure, they must at least be able to tell us about their ups and downs to their way to success. This witness either can be obtained from documented sources like books, journals or directly from the person(if they still healthy and alive).

Despite of trying to emulate those already successful before us, the most important is to live our true self. Living our own destiny is our true legacy, but adding on the values that we learned from them considered as bonus.

Dig and explore even deeper within yourself, and you will find your most wonderful quality. That is the most wonderful part of you - human potential and spirit. That potential and spirit must be transformed into positive mental attitude and determination to win. Use them as tools to beat and overcome testing and tough challenges. That's to me is truly precious and inspirational.

The law of the opposite

Almost everything in this world exist in contra. This is what we called the law of the opposite.

If we were to list down any contra situation related to this law, we will be having a very long list. The most common one is about wealth - rich and poor. In almost any set of contra that we list down, majority of us would aspire to achieve good side of the law such as rich, handsome, pretty, fair, happy, positive, kind, and the list will goes on and on...

Indirectly, the law will make it more interesting to live this life. It boil down to how we are transforming what we perceived as setbacks into our strength and success story when we fall into any set of contra(e.g. failure vs success). This unique law making the world an interesting place as human being always having mutual reliance with each other to transform from one extreme(poor) to the other extreme(rich).

Note that some contra(e.g ugly face) less likely to be tranformed physically. Yet, it still possible to be transformed internally by being kind, smart, polite, and knowledgeable(just to name a few). One maybe less likely become a model with ugly face, but by possessing those mentioned qualities still can make the person successful in life.

In our prowess to achieve or strike a balance, please remember that we always having options. For example, if we have failed in something, there is always another option on the other extreme which is success.

The law of the opposite make life not as life with dead end but as life with choices and options...

Garbage in garbage out

Human brain is the most powerful processor. Even the most sophisticated and advance computer processor unable to match human thinking process ability.

In the span of a day(24 hours), we are processing many ideas, thoughts and words to support our life function as normal human being. In the midst of doing that, all the ideas, thoughts and words spark in our mind or obtain from various input will be centralized at one center - the brain. For such overloading of information, we have to be smart in processing the right thoughts so that we may reap positive outcomes.

My IT friend who graduated in Bachelor of Science Computer always sharing with me that the hardest part is programming subject. Why the hardest? Computer language involve with inputs and outputs. Wrong program input will result wrong required output. Worst still, that's how computer viruses created.

The same process also applies to what we absorbing into our life. If we absorbed garbage ideas and thoughts, then garbage will be the final output. We can equate the virus to negative elements in our thoughts. It is nothing wrong to be negative a little bit for that is normal, but too much negativity will reflect our inner defeat. Thus, be cautious on what "thoughts" we try to plant into our mind daily so that we always produce fruitful results and avoid unnecessary negative and bad outputs.

The power of feel good

One of the most beautiful things about pet such as cats and dogs is they always live for affection for the owner. I believe many of us are very kind to animals. They are just lovely for us to take care of their simple needs without asking something in return. It doesn't matter either you just had a good or bad day at work, they will never fail to great and see you while you back at home. They always passionate about giving and receiving affection.

For a long time, dogs have earned the reputation as "man's best friend" be you in good or bad mood for the day. Dogs always the same - never ask for something in return and honestly never pretend to be good to try to bribe you. Similarly, we can learn a very good lesson from the dogs on how we connect with the people be at home, at work, or on the street. We must be glad to meet people. Not only we must be glad, but always make the person we met feel important. If you like to be treated in the same way people treated you so that you will feel good and important, please take note to always create good feeling to others around you.

Bounce

Have you ever played basketball before? This game offers something meaningful to life if you observative or watchful to the way ball bounce higher and higher the harder it being hit.

I admire any basketball players with good dribbling skills. This game requires not only your stamina and speed, but also ability to confuse opponents with your body movement before you can toss the ball into the opponent's basket within short window of opportunity. The game also has few rules and regulations to follow. One of the rules players need to follow all the time is to make the ball kept bouncing while do the dribbling.

This is not to discuss about descriptions of the game per se, but something equivalent we can observe and learn from the Physics Education perspective - the way the ball 'bounce'. Most importantly we can use it as an analogy to explain the meanings of recovery from any life setbacks or failures.

Set of the equivalents in no particular order of importance:

1. Basketball = human person.
2. Opponent's basket = targets or goals.
3. Basketball court = playing field or life stage.
4. Rules of game = set of rules and regulations of life.
5. Players' action = stress levels and life forces that influencing life directions.
6. Bouncy ball = our ability to recover and bounce back from any life setbacks.
7. The height of the bounce = speed of how fast one accepts reality and back to life.
8. Stamina, speed and dribbling skills = imply our patience in navigating ever bumpy road.

Note:

• It is not about how hard and low you being hit, but how fast and high you can bounce back instead of wasting time and energy moaning at life setbacks.