What if ?

The said self-doubt question sounds very familiar right? This type of fear appears to our mind whenever we became very scared to start anything - assignment, business idea, exam, interview, project, new changes, task, test, work, and so forth.

We always in a situation of insecure and lack of confidence that what we want to do might ends up half-way. Such fear no doubt will slow down our momentum to complete tasks at hand successfully. We think the process might mess up in between. Thus, we tends to be very reluctant to do little mistakes along the way.

It takes bold commitment and focus to avoid this feeling. To make it easier, I suggest that we must not focus on the "what if..." too much. Instead, we must channel our energy into the process of doing them. Simply put, don't worry too much on whatever the outcomes maybe, but we must enjoy the process. End results could be varies - from good, satisfactory to worst. Why worry about something which we don't have 100% control?

Next time, when this kind of self-talk appears, the following steps will facilitate:

1. The task may looks big on paper, but break it down into parts.
2. Pool all instruments, materials, references, and inputs to make things easier.
3. Ask for help should you stuck in between. That's doesn't means we are weak. It will make us more resourceful.
4. Last but not least, start the task or anything you want to accomplish.

The greatest risk is risks nothing - not start anything at all.

"Excusitis"

Human being is self-doubt a lots and always coming out with some common types of excuse. In short, this act non other than to justify the low self-confident level and also can be considered as an easy form of escapism for not take charge in life.

Realize it or not that "excusitis" is a very dangerous and contagious form of non-biological disease. If nothing done to treat it in order to relieve the severity level, one can suffers from "excusitis paralysis" in the long run.
Some examples of "excusitis" : -

• Too old
• Too poor
• Too young
• No money
• Not for me
• You got to be kidding or joking!
• Are you serious?

And the list is unending...

Note:

• If you think that you can or you can't, you're right!

Bounce

Have you ever played basketball before? This game offers something meaningful to life if you observative or watchful to the way ball bounce higher and higher the harder it being hit.

I admire any basketball players with good dribbling skills. This game requires not only your stamina and speed, but also ability to confuse opponents with your body movement before you can toss the ball into the opponent's basket within short window of opportunity. The game also has few rules and regulations to follow. One of the rules players need to follow all the time is to make the ball kept bouncing while do the dribbling.

This is not to discuss about descriptions of the game per se, but something equivalent we can observe and learn from the Physics Education perspective - the way the ball 'bounce'. Most importantly we can use it as an analogy to explain the meanings of recovery from any life setbacks or failures.

Set of the equivalents in no particular order of importance:

1. Basketball = human person.
2. Opponent's basket = targets or goals.
3. Basketball court = playing field or life stage.
4. Rules of game = set of rules and regulations of life.
5. Players' action = stress levels and life forces that influencing life directions.
6. Bouncy ball = our ability to recover and bounce back from any life setbacks.
7. The height of the bounce = speed of how fast one accepts reality and back to life.
8. Stamina, speed and dribbling skills = imply our patience in navigating ever bumpy road.

Note:

• It is not about how hard and low you being hit, but how fast and high you can bounce back instead of wasting time and energy moaning at life setbacks.